Japan is one of the most peaceful and educated countries in the world. The result of this is mainly in the way parents raise their children in Japan. In this article, we will understand how Japanese parents manage to educate their children and make them obedient and do not cause disgrace in society like most young people in the world.
First of all, I want to make it clear that every parent has different ways of raising their children. Not to mention that not all children in Japan are easygoing and well-behaved. On the contrary, they are just quiet, but over the years they also suffer bad influences and make wrong choices.
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Children in Japan are a reflection of their parents
Japanese society places emphasis on good manners and behavior. From an early age, the Japanese are ingrained to think of respect, politeness and politeness as something mandatory and not just a good thing. This can be seen in the myriad ways to apologize or say thank you in the Japanese language.
As children tend to imitate their parents and other adults, naturally children end up receiving this positive influence and having a good education and respect. In addition to parents, schools and the environment in which they are raised also contribute to the results of having a good behavior.
In Japanese society, if a child misbehaves, literally everyone around him will stare at him with dark eyes and will definitely blame his parents for such behavior. Parents will feel a lot of shame and will punish their children in particular.
The Japanese Method of Attachment
As already mentioned, parents are unlikely to call their child's attention in public. Many Western parents often yell and fight with their child for doing something wrong. While it looks effective, it's not the best thing to do.
Violent disciplinary techniques only exacerbate the situation, harming the relationship between parents and children, generating only more violence. Japan's non-tolerance of failure and disobedience plays an important role in the success of the discipline.
The key to success is to raise children with attachment. Just be present, loving, caring, especially in the early years of life. Unfortunately, not all Japanese people are like that... There are many absentee Japanese parents in their children's lives.
Some parents japoneses work so much that many Japanese teenagers grow up alone at home, straying from their discipline. Some are even responsible due to the rigidity of society, but many face problems.
Although love and a positive attitude prevent children from tantruming and doing wrong things, it can end up spoiling them. for this, Japanese parents usually teach their children the value of things. Showing attachment is not giving children total freedom.
Some people claim that they rarely get to see a baby crying in Japan. This is because Japan is full of breastfeeding areas and exclusive places for parents to take care of their children.
Some Japanese parents don't get angry or yell when a child starts screaming. They just stay calm and keep up appearances. A child usually calms down very quickly, perhaps unconsciously the child learns that it's no use crying to receive something.
Teach your children good examples and limits
In reality, freedom is another thing that ruins children. Many parents in Brazil give their children total freedom, look at the disaster it has become. Children need to know their limits and learn to have 忍耐 (nintai) and understand that the world does not revolve around them.
Selfishness is the main reason for disobedience and disgrace in young people today. We can teach children the basis of love and humility if we are humble. There's no point in trying to get our kids to be nice if we're the devil.
Parents must set good examples for their children. That's why in Japan everyone has a bright future, thanks to the efforts and examples that parents give to their children. Unfortunately this has been decreasing more and more, in all parts of the world.
Raising children is not an easy task. As in Japanese culture, parents try to do this in a group and with great persistence. Trying to act your own way never works.
How do Japanese parents raise their children?
To sum up well how parents educate their children in Japan, we can say that it involves initial indulgence that consists of a willingness to forgive faults or mistakes. This is all accompanied by a smooth modeling.
Parents don't do all the work alone, as they also receive broad from society that respects and values authority, self-control and discipline. The Japanese don't use miraculous techniques, it's just those aspects.
Just as Japanese parents and the majority of the population do not expose their angry emotions or speak their minds, children end up acquiring this skill, creating the impression that they are holy and well-behaved people.
Although most Japanese parents show affection in the first years of life. The work and distance between parents and some young people becomes evident, raising children who are a problem for society, especially close to high school.
This way of raising children is not perfect, but it is quite effective. I hope this article has explained the matter well in a simple way. If you want to see more examples of how children in Japan are educated, we recommend the links below:
